Pushing

I had a weird evening. Zander is out of town, in Copenhagen. I'm still not feeling well and especially doing poorly since I got this cold from Ryden/daycare. Anyway Kevin Flick called earlier to invite me over for dinner. It was very kind of him. I made an effort to be there on time. That went well considering I've been having a hard time getting Ry and myself out the door on time. Actually everything went fine until after dinner. Things were winding down and Ryden was playing with their kid easel and magnet letters. Then little Lola (14 months old) appeared next to Ryden. She was using the easel to balance with and hold herself up. And for probably the seventh time that night Ryden pushed Lola. He was obviously trying to push her away and down. It wasn't a game. He wanted her away from him. Lola fell over and she hit her head on the easel then the floor. I felt utterly mortified. Now I know this sort of thing happens, but I was upset with Ryden's behaviour and so embarrassed by Ryden's constant pushing. I hadn't seen that behavior between Ryden and Sora (Ryden's 2 year old Japanese friend). I had seen it a little with Dylan (friend of same age). I actually had to choke back tears. I was upset. I think I was tired too. Kevin & Melissa reassured me that it was very common behavior and not to be upset. Maddie (4 years old) gave Lola a hug and I said thank you to Maddie. It was 8 pm and definitely time to go home. On our way to our car in the driveway Maddie came out on the porch and held up one of her dolls, asking me if I wanted to borrow one. It was so sweet.

Ryden is signing a lot more. My efforts are paying off. Yesterday he signed for 'help'. It is great because I'm understanding his needs better and Ryden get less frustrated. Tonight Ryden did something peculiar. He was in his crib and I was saying goodnight to him and of course he didn't want me to go. He grabbed my hand and then opened his hand trying to get my fingers to lie or touch his palm and then he started to giggle. He was trying to get me to tickle the palm of his hand. So then I did over and over again. Maybe Doma taught him that. I am pretty sure he understood that I was upset earlier because of the pushing incident. He's a sensitive little toddler. I love him very much.